Last year, Yeni Sleidi met a software developer named Asher Snyder who was fed up with what he calls the “Tinderification” of online dating.
It could be your prototypical 21st-century love story. Rebecca, a 34-year-old administrative assistant, immediately knew that Alex (not their real names) was different from other guys she’d dated.
He joined the online dating site OKCupid six years ago, about three years before he transitioned.
He dates men and women, both transgender and cisgender (a term for people who aren't trans).
so beings I identify as a women, I posted in women seeking men.
This shocking revelation comes courtesy of Markus Frind, founder of the immensely popular dating site Plenty of Fish, who explained his reason for shutting down the site’s casual sex section by announcing that of the site’s 3.3 million daily U. users, there are only 6,041 “women” looking for a no-strings hookup — and, even still, many of them are actually men. First is the hypothesis of feminine exploration: “Due to the pressure of cultural stereotypes, it may be difficult for some men to explore within themselves what society labels as ‘feminine’ characteristics” and the “anonymity of cyberspace” allows them to “express their ‘feminine’ side which they feel they must otherwise hide.” Second is a theory of attention-seeking.
Lets face it, we all want relationship — we really do – but sometimes, it’s scary.
And we might do stupid sh*t along the way, and when it comes to dating we’ve all become a little bit cynical.
While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.
In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.