When I was visiting California this summer, a cashier from Brandy Melville asked me out on a date while I was buying a t-shirt.
My first reaction was to laugh at him because it seemed so absurd that someone (let alone a cashier my age with whom I had only spoken three words) was asking me on a date.
A few days ago, as an American friend of mine was telling me all about her new boyfriend and how he had asked her out with flowers, I realized how different courtship and dating is for teens in France and the US. Americans go on formal dates; we keep things secret.
Americans only say “I love you” after months of dating.
Me, I've been sadly disadvantaged in that department because where I live isn't exactly abundant in French visitors or inhabitants, and unfortunately I've never been in the position to travel to France.
For many years I've been fascinated with the subject of American women who prefer Frenchmen only, even to the point of shunning men who are not French in the dating world.
Shifting your thinking from “the rules”, let’s take a look at how to date comme les françaises. The culture of wondering if he is interested in pursuing a relationship while casually dating (sometimes for months! By the third rendez-vous, it is defined that the couple is together or they are not. Gossip Girl You will never hear a French woman exhausting her girlfriends with complaints about her man.
Of course girl talk exists en français, but if she is unhappy about something in her relationship, she will manage it without seeking conflicting advice from outside sources. Moi et Toi While online dating is slightly altering the landscape for the younger generation, the current standard is that the French do not date more than one person at a time.
By positioning themselves in control of their emotions while asserting their expectations, they do not fall prey to the uncertainty and self-doubt that often cast over new relationships. To start off, the word “dating” does not even exist in the French language.For example, we do not speak very often in between dates.In America, this is categorized as 'He's just not that into you..' What is typical behaviour after dating for almost 6 months?I recently learned from various sources that the case of American women dating French men is far from rare.When social encounters with foreigners involve romance, your cultural makeup can trip you up if you don't know what to expect.He will, however, call and text you regularly after he considers you his partner.Word games and "the silent treatment" when something is wrong don't work with a French partner; he often prefers a direct, more passionate approach.The way the French respond to another's interest in them, their accepted behavior during courtship and how their relationships progress can baffle an American seeking love in France.The man-meets-woman language in France represents a major cultural difference for Americans.He is very kind hearted and we have a nice time together, but lately I have been wondering about things.I looking to find out if we are suffering from cultural misunderstandings or it is just not meant to be.