" Also, maybe you also loved that book/movie/food item, and now you guys have something in common and are going to be watching Foreign Thrillers with Strong Female Leads together forever! " It's a little unorthodox, but anything's better than "Sup?
Striking up conversation with a perfect stranger while having not-so-secret hope that they end up being the love of your life is sometimes awkward.
It’s difficult to strike a balance of genuine conversation while still fishing for specific intel on how compatible you are, and it leaves a lot of us with a rolodex of obvious, cliché questions.
And a general rule of thumb: If you’re feeling bored with your own conversation, chances are your date is, too.
Sometimes (okay, most of the time), though, first dates aren't smooth sailing.
That doesn't always mean you're incompatible — just that we are humans, and dating can be awkward.
: The trick, according to Finkel, Eastwick, and Saigal, is to avoid extremes in autonomy.It also may tell you whether or not you guys Pick something YOU love doing, and see where they stand on it. Running out of things to talk to your sweetie about? Via Quirkology: How We Discover the Big Truths in Small Things. In a study by Richard Wiseman, less than 9% of couples that talked movies wanted a second date vs 18% of couples that talked about travel.Everyone has a past, and no one has control over where they’re born and raised.Sure, you might discover some similarities and learning a person’s origin might explain a few things about his/her personality, but asking someone where they want to be in the future gives you insight into their hopes, dreams and passions.Making fun of someone in a light-hearted way creates instant intimacy 2. Everyone loves talking about themselves, and trading personal stories is a great way to get things rolling (and will give you something to talk about on the first date). "What's the most embarrassing thing you did in grade school? Send an invite coded in emojis: (pointing finger martini glass ? Maybe because it acknowledges the silliness of online dating without explicitly complaining about online dating, which can come off as a bit rich since you are, you know, online dating.) Using tiny pictures instead of words somehow makes asking someone out not so intimidating. Maybe it's because it shows that you don't take yourself too seriously and are maybe just a little bit kooky. Open with a random emoji (nail painting is always good) and wait.Luckily, there are a few easy ways to switch up the standard first date flow.By pushing past the obvious questions you think are “safe,” you get the chance to connect a little quicker and deeper than the average first date meet up.